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John J. Cauley, Jr

Born: Fri., Jan. 1, 1926
Died: Wed., Sep. 5, 2012

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Southern Pines, NC

John Joseph Cauley, Jr., 86, died Wednesday September 5, 2012 at his home.

A Mass of Christian Burial will be held on Monday September 10 at 10:00AM
at St. Anthony of Padua Catholic Church with Monsignor Patrick McCabe as Celebrant.

Burial will follow at Arlington National Cemetery at a later date.

Born January 1, 1926 in Cambridge, MA, he was a son of the late John and Honora Haggerty Cauley.

A veteran of the US Army, he served with the 101st Paratroopers in World War II, as well as in the Korean and the Vietnam Wars. During his 26 years in the military, he earned three Bronze Stars and numerous other medals. After retirement from the army at the rank of Lt. Colonel, Mr. Cauley served as Vice President for First Security in Boston, MA. for 20 years.

He is survived by his wife of 64 years, Phyllis Howard Cauley of Southern Pines, six daughters, Kathy Currier and husband Bill of Ft. Myers, FL, Mary Bryant and husband Bob of Lynchburg, VA, Judi Ritz of Southern Pines, Theresa Brower and husband David of Atlanta, GA, Liz Landreth and husband Rick of Southern Pines, and Debbie Stein and husband Bob of Wilmington, MA, four sons, Greg Cauley and wife Mary of West Yarmouth, MA, Pat Cauley of Winthrop, MA, Danny Cauley and wife Patti of North Haven, CT, and Tim Cauley and Melissa of Sandwich, MA, 21 grandchildren and 12 great-grandchildren.

The family will receive friends Sunday from 6 to 8 pm at Powell Funeral Home in Southern Pines.

Burial at Arlington is scheduled for December 19th at 1pm

Memorials may be made to Wounded Warriors

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John Bryant
   Posted Sat September 08, 2012
Dear Cauley family,
We were very saddened to learn of Col. Cauley's passing and our sympathies and condolences go out to his family and friends.
I know I'm not alone when I stop to realize just how many lives this good man must have touched in such a positive and loving way, especially when thinking of his ten children and the genuinely good and solid people they have each and all become. Personally, my life is sadder, but a great deal richer for having known him. He was one of the best.
God bless.
John Bryant and Debbie Patenaude
Lynchburg, VA

Dennis Crowley
   Posted Mon September 10, 2012
Dear Phyllisand Family:
Peg and I were very sad to learn last night of John's passing. John was a very special friend and mentor to me. How well I rememebr all the times we visited clients and prospective clients together. John would announce: "We are the vaudeville team of Crowley and Cauley, here to do a tap dance or two for you." John was very encouraging to me when I resigned from First Security to start Apollo Security and lamented he wasn't younger so he could join me. John was always known as a "gentleman's gentleman". We shared many memories of the military, especial our time in Vietnam. I was always amazed that he had served in three wars and by the high respect he received from his military friends, superiors and subordinates. He was not only respected, but also loved. He will be missed but not forgotten. Please let me know when the burial at Arlington National Cemetery will take place. I would like to be there.
Dennis Crowley

William Howard
   Posted Tue September 11, 2012
Written by William Howard on Wednesday Sept 5, 2012-
Just received word that my uncle, John J Cauley passed away in his sleep today. John was a true American hero. He was a World War II vet who served as a paratrooper with both the 101st and 82nd Airborne in three wars, retiring after Vietnam. John was a model for me and always someone I looked up to in my life as it took it's twists and turns, it's high points and it's lows. Years ago when I was asked at a workshop to write an essay on the person who had most influenced your life who was not your father or your mother I chose John. He gained a battlefield commission in World War II and retired at the rank of Lt Colonel after a long career.

Please don't send me any condolences. John lived a great and impressive life. Instead of commenting on this post please think about your own personal hero and tell him or her all that they mean to you. The only sadness in John's passing is a personal one. His legacy lives in his fine family that has given much to our great nation. Rest in Peace, officer and gentleman and role model to all who wish to be something better.

Pat Brown
   Posted Wed September 12, 2012
Our thoughts and prayers are with you during your time of loss.The Lord will give you strength as you grieve the passing of your loved one, Mr. Cauley.
God's Peace,
Pat Brown and Staff
Aftercare Director, Pines Funerals

Debbie Stein
   Posted Fri September 14, 2012
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Bill Stiles
   Posted Sat September 15, 2012
To the Family and friends of John:
I was saddened to hear of John's passing this week. But as the sun warmed my face on a bench at the ASIS National Security Conference in Philadephia a warm smile cme to my face of his memory. I am greatful I had the chance to serve him, benefit from his mentoring on business as well as life's challenges for his 20 years at First Security. I thank you. I will have an onion in my cocktail tonight in your honor and aspire to better man like you tomorrow.But as always, I likely be late for breakfast at 0600.
May the good Lord hold you and your family close to his heart.

William Stiles
17 Wyndwood Rd.
West Hartford CT 06107

diane nelson
   Posted Tue September 18, 2012
Very sorry to hear of your loss. Mr. Cauley was a gentleman and leaves behind a fine family. Cherish all of your memories. Respectfully, Diane and Fred Nelson, Rockport and Punta Gorda

Mary Cauley Bryant
   Posted Wed September 19, 2012

Family First
Dancing in the kitchen on the way to work each day
Teaching us to do the right thing and now not wanting those lessons to fade
God only knows who was sleeping in the basement, or who was the last guest
and expecting us to always do our very best
Car full of candy on long endless rides
Listened to the disagreement but never picked sides
Treating all strangers with such honest respect
Always ready and willing to defend and protect
Worked from dawn to dusk and more
So many children and grandchildren to adore
Loving husband, father, brother, and son
Loved seeing your family having so much fun
Enjoyed your time on Earth but your work here is finally done

Honest and loyal to the core
So many wars and countless tours

You never could pick out what color to wear
And that comb over thing was quintessential John hair
Could sit and talk to anyone hour after hour
Married the love of your life, little Ms.Howard
Kept conversation alive even towards the end of life
Creature of habit in good times and especially in strife
Engaging and loving in every way
I will miss you so much and will think of you every day
A place for everything and everything in its place
My Father, you have left much more than a trace
And I am now proud to say that you exited with such style and grace

Always trying to teach a lesson: like
Put your family first
You have made me so proud of you that I could burst

Making sure all lights are off and doors are locked at night
My dearest Father it is time for you to go into the light

In Loving Memory:
Mary Cauley Bryant

Ron Boldizar
   Posted Thu September 20, 2012
To The John Cauley Family:

I just learned of John's passing and would like to extend my condolences to his family.

John was one of my many bosses (my favorite) at First Security and mentored me through the outset of my career. He praised in public and criticized in private. His suggestions were "spot on%u201D and his advice was always sound. He was both a friend and a boss who was able to transition flawlessly between the two. I will always remember both.

Thank you, John. May you rest in peace.

Ron Boldizar
Phoenix, AZ

Ashley Crumbley
   Posted Sat September 22, 2012
The words on here are so kind. My Granpa was an outstanding man, one that led many and was such a peaceful, gentle man. I will miss him very much. I ask that you all still hold my Granma up in prayer for comfort.